A Simple Act of Courage (it’s not what you think) – Skinny Artist

A Simple Act of Courage (it’s not what you think)

Courage to be Imperfect

The Courage to be Imperfect

If you’ve read anything I’ve written in the past for this site, it will probably come as no surprise to you that I often misuse (some say abuse) the English language.  So I frequently find myself scurrying about the internet searching for a definition or origin of a particular word until eventually I find myself lost down some linguistic rabbit hole.

This happened to me just recently as I was (once again) wrestling with this idea of why some artwork/articles/images online resonate so powerfully with their audiences while others don’t. What separates these works from the others?  Is it really a matter of talent and skill, or is it just plain old random luck?

You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.  ~Inigo Montoya

Why is it that videos of frolicking kittens continue to rule the internet while so many other, let’s say more culturally significant, pieces of art, music, and literature often get lost in the cyber ether?

More than anything, it seems to be a matter of emotional connection.

These days, we really don’t need any more information, what we need is connection.  We need to find someone we can relate to — someone or something that is a reflection of ourselves.  We don’t need more celebrity tweets, cute kittens, or fake Facebook promotions.  What we really need is to be able to connect with someone else and understand that we’re not alone.

This is not something new.  In fact long before the internet was around, the author C.S. Lewis wrote that “Friendship is born at that moment when one man says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought that no one but myself…’ ”  I think this especially holds true for those of us who work in the creative arts where loneliness and isolation are so common.


But what if I’m not worth it?

Okay that’s great, but what if you feel like you really don’t have anything to offer?

What if I write a blog post and nobody reads it?  What if I post my artwork and nobody comments?

In other words — What if I threw a party and nobody comes?

Why would I risk embarrassing myself?
Why would anyone be interested in connecting with me?
Who am I to offer advice to anyone?
What have I done that anyone else would care about?

These are questions that I ask myself everyday.


It’s true, nobody cares.

Nobody cares what you’ve done.  All they really care about is how you make them feel.

In fact, the more you have accomplished, the less other people will be able to relate to you.  Human nature tells us that if you are considered “successful” other people are far more likely to feel jealous of you than feel any type of real emotional connection with you.

These days you can pretty much open up any magazine and read an interview with some celebrity where they talk about all of the loneliness and isolation that they feel (I know boo-hoo, right?).

  Success turns a lot of people off.  ~Dave Matthews

Although most of them have more Twitter followers and money than they know what to do with, they also have very few emotional connections.  After all, nobody really cares about what Miley Cyrus is feeling, all we want to know what she’s doing, what she’s wearing (or not wearing), and what kind of crazy things she has said this week.

Celebrities in our culture have become spectacles to be watched, envied, and ridiculed — they are no longer individuals with feelings like the rest of us, they have become objects to be worshiped or despised.


Sharing one’s heart.

Being able to connect with someone else means having the courage to share what so many others try to hide.

It’s interesting because the root of the word “courage” comes from the Latin word “cor” which means the “heart”.

“One of the morphemes of the Latin word cor, cordis is the modified by French cour, which gives us such words as courage (one must have a great deal of “heart” to be courageous), encourage (to give someone “heart” to carry out an act)” [ source: http://wordempire.blogspot.com/2009/02/cor-cordisheart.html ]

So in essence to have courage is to be willing to share what is in your heart.

This is true not only when it comes to making connections and developing relationships with other people, but also when it comes to creating our art.

However just as powerful is our ability to “encourage” someone else to share what is in their own heart.


Emotional warriors

The author Brené Brown talks about this emotional connection to courage in her book “The Gifts of Imperfection”

“Courage originally meant ‘To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.’  . . . today courage is more synonymous with being heroic. Heroics is important… but I think we’ve lost touch with the idea that speaking honestly and openly about who we are, about what we’re feeling, and about our experiences (good and bad) is the definition of courage.”

Being a hero means that you are willing to take a risk.

Whether that risk is physical or emotional in nature is irrelevant because either way, it means that person is willing to do something even though they may have no idea how it’s going to turn out.

It’s about allowing yourself to be vulnerable and share your weaknesses and doubts with others.


Being vulnerable sucks (but it’s necessary)

Let’s face it, being vulnerable has nothing to do with being comfortable.  In fact, they are not even distant cousins.   You don’t see many creative artists who are hard at work baring their emotional soul while still feeling completely at ease and confident with what they are trying to do.

Being vulnerable and opening yourself up to criticism and potential failure is not easy.

After all, it’s one thing when everyone else is nodding their head and saying “Yeah, I feel that way too“, but it’s a different story when they start looking at you strangely and say “I don’t know, that just sounds kind of weird

It’s that willingness to take the first step — to offer up your insecurities to the tribe —  to risk alienating yourself and looking like the fool that you often feel you are.

It’s about having the courage to be unfinished, imperfect, and a continual work in progress…


Are you feeling courageous? 


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About the Author

Drew is a writer, teacher, and head custodian of the Skinny Artist creative community. You can also find him online at OutmatchFitness.com where he writes about fitness, nutrition, and his continuing battle with father time.

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Fear is a constant companion of the artist! I am frequently frozen by it; but what I have learnt is that unless I bite the bullet and get on with it I will always think I can’t! when perhaps I can! I know I will learn from it and I will stretch myself and yes I probably will never fully achieve an ‘abstract landscape’ that I will be wholly satisfied with; but I will learn more by having a go at that which is frightening me

great article thanks for sharing

    I think you’re right, fear is one of those things that makes creating art both exhilarating and terrifying all at the same time. Even though I know this, it doesn’t really make it any easier, which is why sometimes you just have to jump in and do it before our well-meaning brains can talk us out of it. I do think, however, that this is something that gets a little easier the more you do it. Thanks again Ashar for stopping by and sharing your thoughts with us.

I totally love this entry, Skinny Artist! :-) And yes! I don’t know whether I am feeling courageous but I enjoy more and more the “exposure” that my blog gives me and… by exposure I don’t mean the many people I reach (they are actually not that many) but the fact that it allows me to expose myself to others. To take this risk to get judged… I am kind of getting addicted to this feeling. I would say I feel courageous AFTER having done it.

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