For whatever reason, when I was growing up, I never seemed to enjoy the same things that everyone else around me did.
It wasn’t until college that I really started to learn about some of the differences between having an introverted and extroverted personality. At the time, I just assumed that I was weird, and everyone else in the world was normal. It wasn’t until later (much later) that I finally realized being an introvert wasn’t a flaw in my character that needed to be fixed or overcome.
Of course, this public perception is still out there.
Just last year, my daughter took a personality test in one of her classes at school, and when she got the results, she was offended by the fact that she had been classified as an introvert.
When she told me about it, she actually felt the need to defend herself because, to her and her classmates, introversion was just another word for being shy, awkward, and weird.
Even though she didn’t really understand what introversion meant, she knew enough to realize that being labeled an introvert was something to be avoided.
In fact, one of the reasons that I started Skinny Artist in the first place was so I would be able to connect with other people like me and let them know that it’s okay to be quiet, and they don’t have to constantly talk about themselves and their accomplishments in order to succeed.
This made me wonder how many of you might feel the same way, so a few weeks ago, I whipped up a short survey for the readers on our mailing list in order to see what you thought.
The results were pretty interesting. . .
87% of you who responded to our survey, described yourself as an introvert
“Good Sense of Humor” 62%
“Usually Quiet” 54%
“Difficult to get to know” 46%
“Difficult to Know” 66%
“Usually Quiet” 53%
So other than the fact that most of us think we’re funnier than we are, there seems to be some sort of agreement about how we, as introverts, are seen (or think we are seen) by others.
–“Just because I don’t talk very much to you, doesn’t mean I don’t like you.”
–“I love people, and I’m very friendly and outgoing, but I need a lot of quiet, alone time. I don’t like to be around a lot of people for too long…it gets me exhausted.”
–“When I’m quiet – I’m not uninterested or angry. I’m usually just tired and need some space.”
–“Although I may be talkative, it is because I am so so anxious… I enjoy people very much, but really more of one to one than a group.”
–“I find it really uncomfortable talking about who I am and what I do.”
–“Just because I am quiet doesn’t mean something is wrong. Just because I am not smiling constantly doesn’t mean I’m sad. Just because I don’t hear you when I am focused on something doesn’t mean you don’t matter.”
–“I am not pretentious, stand-offish, or mean; just really shy and awkward around new people.”
–“I have to channel an alternate version of myself, my ‘inner extrovert,’ to get through social situations, and that I’m always incredibly exhausted afterward. It takes a massive amount of mental energy to pull it off, but somehow I do.”
— “Just because I’m a good listener doesn’t mean that I never need someone to listen to me sometimes.”
–“Sometimes I need peace and quiet to do my work and time by myself in order to recharge and find my centre again. This doesn’t mean I don’t love or care about the people in my life. It’s just my way of staying grounded in a busy world which can easily become overwhelming with all its distractions.”
–“I usually am happy and enjoying myself, despite being quiet and seemingly withdrawn.”
This is just a small sample of the responses we got, but I noticed many of the same ideas coming up again and again.
So many of us creative types work in solitude. Whether we are a writer, painter, or graphic designer, we often work alone in our studio, and quite honestly, most of us like it that way. The problem is that we sometimes forget that there is a time to create, and a time to get out there to market ourselves and our creative work to others.
Many of us, would prefer to have our work “stand on its own” and sell itself. We tell ourselves that if our work is good enough, it will eventually find its customers. So we continue to write our books, paint our canvases, and wait for the sales to roll in.
Unfortunately, these days we can’t just sit back and wait for someone else to notice us. We need to find ways to connect with our audience, but we also need to find a way to tell our unique story and show off our creative work using the tools that best fit our personality.
If you happen to be a chatty extrovert, you can often rely on your social connections to get your work noticed, but what if you are an introvert who’s idea of networking might be having a cup of coffee with a friend?
As introverts, how can we get ourselves and our creative work noticed without having to pretend to be someone we’re not? How can we manage to get the attention without all of the noise? Is it possible to make a “quiet impact”?
Maybe you suspect that you are an introvert, but you’re not really sure what that means, or maybe you have a friend or family member who is an introvert, and you are looking for a way to understand them better. Perhaps you are an extrovert who works with or is in a relationship with an introvert. The information in this book can help you break through their seemingly impenetrable wall.
Despite what you may have read on the internet, being an introvert is not a fatal flaw in our character that needs to be overcome. Introverts are not defective. We’re just different—like being born left-handed.
What if we didn’t always have to be the loudest one in the room to get noticed? What if we could find a way to use our natural strengths as an introvert to our advantage?
The goal of this book is not to wallow in self-pity about being an introvert or complain about how unfair it is that the obnoxious loud-mouthed extroverts seem to get all of the promotions and hot dates.
This book is more about building a self-awareness. It’s about learning how we can develop our strengths as an introvert while compensating for our weaknesses.
Unfortunately, these days we can’t just sit back and wait for someone else to notice us. We need to find ways to connect with our audience, but we also need to find a way to tell our story and show off our creative work using the tools that best fit our personality.
• How introverts can thrive and succeed in an extroverted world
• Why being quiet doesn’t mean that you are shy, weak, or unhappy
• The advantages and unique challenges of being an introvert
• Communication strategies for introverts both online and off
• How to navigate the unspoken relationship rules for introverts
• Effective marketing strategies for the creative introvert
• How you can get yourself and your work noticed without saying a word
We may not always be able to change the way other people see us as introverts, but we can change the way we see ourselves.
I’m incredibly impressed by this book. I recently earned a degree in Communications and study different personality types and how they interact with each other, and how their different perceptions can affect how they communicate. This book gave me more insight and better information than anything I’ve seen on this topic in the past three years. Add to that, the wealth of information on how creative introverts can promote their work despite their natural tendency to dislike being the center of attention, and this book is an amazing value at any price.
As introverts, we are so much more than our label. This book provides useful strategies to network during social events like conferences, navigate conversations with new people, and how to emulate an appearance of confidence (even when we’re not really feeling it). Quiet Impact also covers essential marketing advice for introverted artists, writers, musicians, photographers, and those in other creative fields. Imbued with just enough humor to keep it entertaining, Kimble’s writing describes our traits in such a way that every introvert will immediately read his words and think, “Yeah, he’s totally talking about me.” This book, while written for introverts, can also help extroverts understand introverts better, which makes it a great read for people on both sides of the scale.
Finally a road map for the introverted creative person. Mr. Kimble has written a book that not only helps introverts and extroverts to understand each other it also helps them to understand themselves. Most importantly for me it gave me tools I can immediately implement that will allow me to gain a voice in the marketing of my art.
Excellent tips and techniques! I’m giving this book to my college age daughter, since this is such great advice for an introvert getting ready to go into the work world! I absolutely recommend this book for all those college graduate introverts. It will save them a lot of cringes and self-esteem issues. I wish it was there for me 35 years ago. It would have saved me on tears and doubt.
Drew is a writer, teacher, and head custodian of the Skinny Artist creative community. You can also find him online at OutmatchFitness.com where he writes about fitness, nutrition, and his continuing battle with father time.